btw, Rattler. Could you further explain what this 'mama' complex you always mention is all about?
I have done before, great search engine we have (just had to enter "mama", there it was)
http://www.warandtactics.com/smf/wats-21st-century-zoo/wat-zoo-exhibit-6-lubna-ahmed-hussein-the-trouser-lady/ (adaped by adding some words for this thread):
For many men women are - by definition - indecent if they ever manage to get her horizontal, that is why so many guys need to talk of "sluts", "bitches" or else, when refering to the girls they managed to get laid.
It is the "Mama" complex (my personal theory):
Big Tits (like Mama when I was a baby! Want them back again!), and they are of cause saints and as such stand on a pedestal and cannot be bothered with "dirty" things like sex (and so we men can understand they will only by obligation fall for our sexual assaults, to do us a favor, as "Mama"), and so every lady who does not fall into that scheme (like the whores the married guys frequent to once fuck someone not a "saint" and do dirty stuff), are by definition: Indecent...
I can detail more, if that should not be sufficient.
For starters, I guess you named the thread at reverse (What do Men look for in Women?), but as you started it, why not let you take the lead and direct it somewhere else...
?
2nd , I also was appalled to post this vid a day or so ago (it appeared first in "related videos" on one that was posted here, do not ask me which one was the original - and I guess you just looked at it an said: "Hey! That fits!"). Well, I remember the series (it is a company promo series, 1 min each of which 15 secs are repeating the company name, and I would not believe the lady one word though even she said sensible stuff or got it all right as like in this one you posted) BECAUSE I saw the other ones (and even posted one before, for laughs), check some samples and tell me we men have to take *that* in serious (as I do not want to clog the thread with vids, I will use the quote format to just transmit the urls without transforming them):
Look, the man she is talking about, he won´t need the advice... What about the guy who (like the majority) has just this exact problem: He does *not feel confident* when falling in love, his knees shake and his mouth goes dry, and he does not know what to utter..., and the lady does not solve a little bit of his predicament...
Or take this one:
If a friend turns into a lover, it's wise to avoid talking to them about past relationships. Avoid getting too clingy when intimacy is added to a friendship.
(again, all the rest is just mentioning the company, this is her message, and, with all due respect, it is pure rubbish: If you have had a friend for some time that suddenly turns into a lovers relationship, you will *already know everything about his past*, or what does she want to insinuate? That we as friends have not shared our sorrows, anxieties or hopes? Rubbish!
I recall there is one about kissing (the one I posted for laughs before), standby and let me search...
Ok, found it, actually two. both are ROFL (and, sorry, rubbish again):
#1:
... in order to get a first kiss, look at body language, make eye contact and be aware of receptive energy. Look for messages before leaning in for a first kiss
ROFL, LMAO, when you are in love and have the time to look (consciently!) for "receptive energy" (whatever that means), for messages and for body language, you are simply at the wrong time at the wrong place with the wrong woman...
The other one is not much better
:
When kissing someone, it's important to have fresh breath, to be comfortable and to be soft and gentle. Make a kiss sensual and romantic with help from a relationship coach... don´t be in an arkward position...
ROFL again, RTFM? or What? This is no help whatsoever to people who do not know how to kiss, they will not be able to take anything from here as they cannot at the same time kiss and read the manual... (talking from - many decades ago - experience here):
3rd: My take: Forget all those dating coaches and what they say (ok, read and/and/or listen to them, keep it in the back of your mind, one moment of your life - when you are *already experienced* (!) you might find one or the other snippet helpful):
- Men present themselves, women chose: As a guy, you can do whatever you want in your presentation, if the gal does not find the "click" to what she is looking for, forget it.
- Even if you do nothing special and she "clicks" she will twll you later what of your "nothing" impressed her, and you wont believe it nor ever be able to repeat it.
It is not the men that choose, in the end it comes out this, from our man´s side:
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothing else.
He'll trade the world
For the good thing he's found.
If she's bad he can't see it.
She can do no wrong.
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down.
When a man loves a woman.
He spend his very last dime
Tryin' to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way it ought to be.
Well, this man loves a woman
I give you everything I have
Tryin' to hold on to your precious love
Baby, please don't treat me bad.
When a man loves a woman
Down deep in his soul.
She can bring him such misery
If she plays him for a fool
He's the last one to know
Lovin' eyes can't never see.
When a man loves a woman
He can do no wrong
He can never want some other girl.
Yes, when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
'Cause baby, baby, baby, you're my world.
And, sometimes you are lucky, and the response is ok (but, who would have guessed? With a woman´s twist to things, check the subtley changed lyrics...
):
That is the power you gals have over us guys (of cause, we have our responses, but I wont tell details nor figures...
), it is a blanced world, after all...
FWIW,
Rattler
P.S.:
According to what I see and have experienced, we men truly are vulnerable, and whatever much I applaude the harsh take on violent male gender violence, there is also some (not sanctioned that I knew of) psychological female gender violence excerted, simply making use of our open doors, as women do not feel the restraints we men do:
Como una promesa, eres tú, eres tú, /You are like a promise
Como una mañana de verano, /like morning of summer
Como una sonrisa, eres tú, eres tú, /like a smile you are, that is you
Así, así, eres tú. /that is how, that is how you are!
Toda mi esperanza, erés tú, eres tú, /you are all my hope
Como el agua fresca en mis manos, /like fresh water in ma hands
Como fuerte brisa, eres tú, eres tú, /like a strong breeze, you are
Así, así, eres tú. /like this, like this you are
Refrán:
Eres tú, como el agua de mi fuente, /you are: Like the water of my fountain
Eres tú, el fuego de mi hogar /You are: The fire in my house
Eres tú, como el fuego de mi hoguera, /You are: The fire in my fire place
Eres tú, el trigo de mi pan. /You are: The wheat of my bread
Como un poema, eres tú, eres tú /Like a poem you are, thats how you are
Como una guitarra en la noche. /Like a guitar at night
Todo mi horizonte, eres tú, eres tú /All my horizon you are
Así, así, eres tú. /That is what you are for me.
R.
