What do men look for in a woman?

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One thing I found to be true (and which for me explains how some couples can be together several decades) is that a man always keeps the first impression he had of his wife/companion/lover: Even if many years have gone by and the body long has succumbed to it´s influence and gravity, he will see this first impression in front of his mental eye whenever looking at her.

I met my ex about 20 yrs ago sitting on a rock in the sea and she reminded me of the Copenhaguen "Mermaid", this picture is still what I see today when looking at her or thinking of her:



I think this effect is also the base for some of the standard problems men have with women and vice versa:

While women constantly want us to change (or even want to change us, which won´t work), men want their women never to change and to remain the way they got to know them (which of cause also doesn´t work).

FWIW,

Rattler

I dont think naked or bikini would make any difference really with regard to the impression, would it?

Rattler

don't look to hard, don't want anything to hard...it will all come to you...

I was 32 and Karine 41 before I found my haven...I had numerous girls and women...one day it's bingo....

better to wait than to force something and marry the wrong woman or have kids with the wrong partner...

'go with the flow'

NOTE that the "rest of your life" gene wise is 7 years, more or less. This not only statistically from the POV when all the scriptures we believe in today where hashed out (average life expectancy 28 when the bible was published: People tend to forget that the "old ones" or "wise ones" were about 40-45 in the context), but also from a "breed-raising" genetic angle, this is usually when you lose interest (as a woman, looking for the next breeder).

So, as Koen already said, take it as it comes, be true to your feelings, beliefs and - most of all - to your kids, don´t hope for more than 7 years and you are fine, and after separation, do not go into crazy attrition wars (and talk to your prospective wife about what I just wrote before the marriage).

Dont know whether that helps, but from what my father told me and my own experience, another few gems (that might be completely wrong but served me well), NOTE, going into uncensored automatic writing mode again, forget PC:

- Stay away (or at least have your ALERT sensors turned to finest) from women with large handbags (and I mean large!). This was an advice of my father to me, and I can just relay it as I had the same experiences (all the loves I got along with for long term had *NO* handbag but knew to organize their stuff as we guys: Why do they need one where we don´t?). My guess that it is a form of body language saying "I want all!", meaning they will press you out like a lemon and throw you away once youre spent. NOTE also that it gets worse, when talking designer handbags... Dont ask me why, just my experience accumulated, and inevitable goes along with those women needing one and a half hour in the bathroom every morning...



- Stay away (or at least have your ALERT sensors turned to finest) from women with LARGE earings and much glitter. From my POV they are extremely possesive (which is another angle of being super materialistic, basically they are telling you by body language/expression). "Harpies" is my word for them, you will live jealousy nightmares...



- Stay away (or at least have your ALERT sensors turned to finest) from gals with short, stubby fingers (forgot to mention it before: Hands/fingers are a great indicator about how you will get along):



- Stay away (or at least have your ALERT sensors turned to finest) from gals that walk with their feet parrallel or even turned inwards: Body language for reserving everything to yourself, bein uncommunicative and unsensual, you will get into probs over the long run:



Just to make it clear, women walking with their feet turned outwards will present you with problems as well, but they will be on another level.

From my experience, look for: Women with long fingers (better even if calloused a bit), short fingernails, turned outward feet, small earrings, no handbag, and quicker with her moring toilet than you... . Have fun in finding that farm girl that can also compete and perform naturally in any gala!  

Rattler (JFDR, not at all intending to be cynical, but you *can* know what is going to happen before it actually happens...)

Yes,  that certainly is some advice there,  Rattler.  What if a man falls in love with a woman and doesn't see her in toeing until after?  And what if,  she has many bags and you only happen to bump into her when she has her big one?  And what if her earings are just fake jewels, does that count?  Or does that mean she's okay and not a gold digger?  And what if she bought herself the diamond earrings, and infact has more money then the man?  What then? No chubby hands  either?        I wonder how many men think of those things when falling in love?

 I agree with the 7 year max thing though. And in most cases not even that.

So what about us women?  what should we look out for when looking of the right guy? 

Regarding what Women look for in a man:     

Women in their early 20s:

   1. Handsome
   2. Charming
   3. Financially successful
   4. A caring listener
   5. Witty
   6. In good shape
   7. Dresses with style
   8. Appreciates finer thing
   9. Full of thoughtful surprises
  10. An imaginative, romantic lover

Women in their early 30s:

   1. Nice looking
   2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
   3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
   4. Listens more than talks
   5. Laughs at my jokes
   6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
   7. Owns at least one tie
   8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
   9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
  10. Seeks romance at least once a week

Women in their early 40s:

   1. Not too ugly
   2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
   3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
   4. Nods head when I'm talking
   5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
   6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
   7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
   8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
   9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
  10. Shaves most weekends

Women in their early 50s:

   1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
   2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
   3. Doesn't borrow money too often
   4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
   5. Doesn't retell the same joke too many times
   6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on weekends
   7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
   8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
   9. Remembers your name on occasion
  10. Shaves some weekends

Women in their early 60s:

   1. Doesn't scare small children
   2. Remembers where bathroom is
   3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
   4. Only snores lightly when asleep
   5. Remembers why he's laughing
   6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
   7. Usually wears some clothes
   8. Likes soft foods
   9. Remembers where he left his teeth
  10. Remembers that it's the weekend

Women in their early 70s:

   1. Breathing
   2. Doesn't miss the toilet.

      

Coming back to my first post, I found a "live" image of what I look for in a woman:



And, yes, I remeber having said "Beware of women with big earrings!", but inevitably they are part of the (for me attractive) crowd.

Bebé has always hit me in my soft spot, one of the most beautiful and intriguing women I know (just look how she sits there in an interview on TV!? What she says, and how she does it!?), here two vids that show my "prey scheme" quite maxed out (lyrics translation attempt by me, sorry, of the first vid the sound is slightly out of sync and the quality not the best):

BEBE «Tiempo Pequeño»

And here, for all the girls out there trying to find out what guys look for in a gal (and for this special one who posts in this forum), Bebé, "Ella" (She), I just love that video!:

Ella se a cansao de tirar la toalla se va quitando poco a poco telarañas no ha dormido esta noche pero no esta cansada no mira ningún espejo pero se siente to’ guapa Hoy ella sa puesto color en las pestañas hoy le gusta su sonrisa, no se siente una extraña hoy sueña lo que quiere sin preocuparse por nada hoy es una mujé que se da cuenta de su alma Hoy vas a descubrir que el mundo es solo para ti que nadie puede hacerte daño, nadie puede hacerte daño Hoy vas a comprender que el miedo se puede romper con un solo portazo. Hoy vas a hacer reir porque tus ojos se han cansado de ser llanto, de ser llanto… Hoy vas a conseguir reirte hasta de ti y ver que lo has logrado que… Hoy vas a ser la mujé que te dé la gana de ser Hoy te vas a querer como nadie ta sabio queré Hoy vas a mirar pa’lante que pa atrás ya te doy yo bastante una mujé valiente, una mujé sonriente mira como pasa Hoy nasié la mujé perfecta que esperaban ha roto sin pudore las reglas marcadas Hoy a calzado tacone para hacer sonar sus pasos Hoy sabe que su vida nunca mas será un fracaso Hoy vas a descubrir que el mundo es solo para ti que nadie puede hacerte daño, nadie puede hacerte daño Hoy vas conquistar el cielo sin mirar lo alto que queda del suelo Hoy vas a ser feliz aunque el invierno sea frio y sea largo, y sea largo… Hoy vas a conseguir reir tanto de ti y ver que lo has logrado… Hoy vas a descubrir que el mundo es solo para ti que nadie puede hacerte daño, nadie puede hacerte daño Hoy vas a comprender que el miedo se puede romper con un solo portazo. Hoy vas a hacer reir porque tus ojos se han cansado de ser llanto, de ser llanto… Hoy vas a conseguir reirte hasta de ti y ver que lo has logrado ohhhh…

she has become tired, to throw in the towel. bit by bit she throws off the cobwebs.... she hasn´t slept last night but she is not tired. she does not look in any mirror but she feels totally beautiful! Today she colored her eye lashes, today she likes her smile and she doesn´t feel strange, today she dreams of what he wants without worrying about anything today she is a woman that has found her soul! Today you will discover that the world is just for you, that nobody can hurt you, nobody can hurt you! Today you will understand that fear can be ended with a simple slam of the door. Today you will laugh, because your eyes have become tired of crying, of being crying... Today you will manage to laugh (even about your self) and see what you've accomplished... Today you are going to be the woman that you want to be! Today you'll love yourself like nobody ever knew to love you! Today you're going to look forward (because looking back has been sufficiently hurting), one brave women, one smiling woman, see how it happens!? Today was born the perfect women who everybody expected, who shamelessly broke the marked out rules, Today you put on your high heels so that your footseps be heard, Today you know that your life will never be a failure again! Today you will discover that the world is just for you, that nobody can hurt you, nobody can hurt you! Today will win heaven, without looking at how high you are above the floor... Today you will be happy, even if the winter should be cold and long, and if he should be long! Today you will manage to be laughing (even about your self) and see what you've accomplished... Today you will discover that the world is just for you, that nobody can hurt you, nobody can hurt you! Today you will understand that fear can be ended with a simple slam of the door. Today you do laugh, because your eyes have become tired of crying, of being crying... Today you will manage to be laughing (even about your self) and you see what you've accomplished...

YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

Enjoy, Jilly (and others).

Rattler

I saw this posted elsewhere, and it brought me to tears.  Very moving and straight from her heart:

Duffy,  Warwick Ave:

Duffy - Warwick Avenue - Official Video (External Embedding Disabled)

LOL...I hope she wasn't green like the Copenhagen Mermaid!

Good Hunting.

MR

The question I answerd your´s with...

Rattler