Just random thoughts and conversation thread

[Rattler]

So, how did you pass New Years?

I got called out of the party in mid dancing, because we were hit with a force 12 strom, and someone said my terrace had gone haywire and one of my dogs (Locke, he was on the chain alone at home) had been buried under the wind shades, chairs and table.

Came home at 0255, force 12 is true, and from SW (no METAR from LEPA, that says it all, winds exceeding 120 kmh), my terrace in shambles indeed, but the dog and the cats are fine... ... Good start for the year...

Attached (click to enlarge: As few people rarely see me like that - and I took off my usual black cap just for the photo, at those winds you can imagine I would be wearing it... - and as I am wearing this *original* 80´s outfit incl. shiny cowboy boots probably for the last time - fabric is getting really thin at 20+ yrs - , a quick shot from when I came home... I know I will like this ugly photo in 5 yrs time from now ...

My rather unrelaxed facial expression (I was actulally feeling quite happy ) is due to the above described situation and assorted worries and the gale blowing in through the slits in the windows and door at high power, even with doors closed the carpets would lift, NOTE the torch light in my right hand to inspect damage...

Enjoyed the night, had a really great excellent dinner (paté, then tartar, then fish, then sorbet, then deer), spent my last money, kissed 42 ladies new year, had a few dances with a lady who needed someone who knew to activate her, had not too much to drink: 2010, I am ready!

Rattler

P.S.: Got a TAF from Palma now (read like METAR, the extra is forecast, the interesting part is the wind: "23069G89KT" = 230 degrees, 69 KT and gusts 89 KT, forecast says ti will not take long -2nd highlighted group): TAF LEPA 312300Z 0100/0124 23069G89KT 9999 FEW015 TX15/0113Z TN11/0107Z BECMG 0112/0114 26016G30KT=

[Solideo]

Damned spakraut, LOL. My end of year has been watching "House", I work in a while, so I went for dinner at parent´s house and went back home early. Anyway this year I wasn´t very pleaseant with Christmas parties, I have not put even traditional decoration (less work). Have to cal, you this days mate, have to find the correct moment.

Happy New year everybody

[Koen]

nice flashlight...
yep, being an '80s guy myself I still have a pair of boots somewhere hidden... (and I saw some pretty ones last week in the 'Marlboro Classics' shop)

[FACman]

Spent the night quietly at home with Mary watching classic 'Twilight Zone episodes marathon on TV, retired early.
As a 60's kinda guy, I have never owned a pair of cowboy boots...LOL 

[Jilly]

You do look kind of grumpy in your pic.  Rattler.  Had enough of Spain already?   

[Jilly]

I'm just curious,  what do you all think of women who go to bars or pubs by themselves?  What are your impressions when you see a woman in one by herself?  Any of these apply?

1.  She's out to get laid or is looking for a man or a one night stand.

2.  She must be lonely and needs some company

3.  She must be a tramp

4.  She's a very independent woman, good for her.

5.  She's just passing through and is probably just thirsty.

6.  She wants to be alone and just spend some time by herself.

7.  None of my business

8.  Perhaps I should try my luck/make a move? 

Or something else comes to mind?

[FACman]

I cannot remember the last time I was in a bar/pub, as a child of the 60's they are/were rarely on my itinerary. Personally, it would be none of my business and I wish him/her success in finding whatever it is he/she seeks. 

[Solideo]

Jilly I bet for number 7. Usually when I go for a pub I go for drinking. Of course there is a natural rule associated to the increase of spirits you drink, it says something like this in Spanish "No hay mujeres feas sino copas de menos" (There are no ugly women but few spirits you have drunk", so as much you drink evil little head becomes chief of your thoughts.

But early times, I don´t give a s**** about what a bird is doing alone over there, 5-6 rums later I still don´t care, simply think if she is reacheble. (This is one of my new years propositions, to be clerer than I was). Unfortunately I don´t use to go to pubs.

[Rattler]

As I am haning out in bars all the time I have my reasons to be there: To drink coffee, to read the news paper, to run into people I know or don´t, to have some conversation, or just to ponder about my next turns in the MBX... At night, to have a few and talk to ppl I meet there (most bars have their regulars and you get to know them over time).

As I also think everybody thinks like me, I would guess that would be the same for any solo lady there also. It iwll always be a friendly hello should she greet, from there you get your signals, as from any guy: I might talk to her if she signals she is looking for conversation, I will leave her alone if she signals whe wants to ponder about something, generally, my attitude to her would be that like towards any other male guest (of cause, we have lonely tourists here sometimes which changes the equation a little, being a bachelor I´d be double checking your #8  ).

This said I cannot really chose any of the points in your list (but can exclude 1, 2 and 3) as I do not find anything special about an unaccompanied woman turning up in the bar or pub really.

Rattler

[Jilly]

That's very interesting you guys.  Thanks for your input.  I've only ventured into to a pub alone once,( in London), and that was because I was meeting a friend there.  It makes me feel uncomfortable,  but only because,  as soon as I go into one,  I get the looks,  heads turn my way.  But this happens every time without fail, sometimes even if I'm with other women friends as well.  

In the end I guess it depends on the pub or bar you go to,  some are used to local women going in regularly,  others, perhaps in the rougher areas of towns and cities,  women just wouldn't venture in to,  or she may get more than she bargained for.  

Having said that,  it would be a good experiment,  to go to as many bars or pubs as possible alone, in different areas, and maybe in different countries, just to see what the reaction would be and what would happen.  Just for homework purposes you understand  

[Koen]

I get the looks,  heads turn my way

don't say that doesn't feel good 

[Solideo]

I get the looks,  heads turn my way

don't say that doesn't feel good 

LOOOOOOOOOOOL , re Looooooooool anr more LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

[Jilly]

I get the looks,  heads turn my way

don't say that doesn't feel good 

Honestly, koen.  It makes me feel self conscious. 

When I first moved to the UK, as a kid,  I was one of the very few people of color in town, and I always got the looks.  And as I got older,  I kept on getting the looks.  For different reasons, possibly though. 

[Koen]

I get the looks,  heads turn my way

don't say that doesn't feel good 

Honestly, koen.  It makes me feel self conscious. 

When I first moved to the UK, as a kid,  I was one of the very few people of color in town, and I always got the looks.  And as I got older,  I kept on getting the looks.  For different reasons, possibly though. 

don't get me wrong, I wasn't talking about any racial-colour issue but only the female/long-hair/curves....hmmmm...dark skin...long black hair....female curves...wooha....

[Jilly]

Yes,  I'm sure the curves help lol.

[Rattler]

-snip- I've only ventured into to a pub alone once,( in London), and that was because I was meeting a friend there.  It makes me feel uncomfortable,  but only because,  as soon as I go into one,  I get the looks,  heads turn my way.  But this happens every time without fail, sometimes even if I'm with other women friends as well. -snip-  

Jilly, maybe it is lack of experience then, as *I*, when I enter a pub for the first time (whatever pub), also get the looks, heads turn, etc. ... (but probably turn back with a little more disgusted expresion than after having seen you  ), that *is* what happens in pubs (if you are not one of the residnent drunks):

"Oh, lets see, a break in the dull routine, someobody comes in..., a face I have never seen before? Who is he?" (Incousciously the thread goes on "Dangerous? Profitable? Neutral? Ignorable")...

Normal.

Rattler

[Jilly]

Um...Rattler,  I worked in the West End of London.  Huge pubs, with strangers coming in day and night. 

[Solideo]

Jilly, do whatever you like and think if you don´t look for strangers sights, you won´t see them. I mean, go on yourself and will not notice if they look at you, but if you are desirable ...and don´t wanna be into a luxury seek and destroy term, just wear a burka (LOOL)

[Rattler]

-snip- but if you are desirable ...and don´t wanna be into a luxury seek and destroy term, just wear a burka (LOOL)

...and I am sure, then not one  head will turn towards you... ROFL!

Rattler!

[Jilly]

..and don´t wanna be into a luxury seek and destroy term, just wear a burka (LOOL)

Now that would really draw attention to myself.  I'd rather just try and blend into the background, thanks.

Mind you if I WAS looking for attention, I'd walk into the bar wearing this